Day 24:
Notice Today:
Hoe does your husband respond to a drama queen (whether it's you or someone else)? Does he try to escape or disengage, or does he really enjoy the dialogue?
Nurture Today:
The next time you're tempted to be overly dramatic, Hear the conversation from your husband's perspective. Try your best to convey the facts without extreme emotions that will most likely wear him out.
Ok this is so me. I like to make bigger deals out of things then really need be. and Jon is not one to go with me and it drives me crazy. But he sees thing for as they are and is really easy going. I need to learn that not everything in my life is a big deal and that he doesn't want to hear every little thing that bugs me. I just need to talk to myself more and then let it go. The people in my head listen really well. hahahaha
ReplyDeleteCaleb hates drama. literally hates it. i think all the years of his parent's drama has lower his tolerance for it, so usually he just disengages when the dramatics come out. unfortunately, i'm a drama queen. i'm always freaking out about something, and it usually takes me quite a while to realize it's not that big of a deal. with the extra hormones right now, the slightest thing (like someone unfriending me on facebook) sends me over the edge. it's my natural reaction to be offended, and then whine until i feel someone has validated my feelings. then possibly hold a grudge for a little while. but this time, i tried to keep the whining to the minimum, and when he asked me what was wrong i simply stated i was a bit hurt and i was surprised by something that someone did. Caleb's reaction to the conversation proved the point of this chapter. he was willing to actually have a conversation about what was bothering me when he wasn't feeling like he needed to go running in the other direction from all the emotional outbursts he hates so much. he was understanding and then even added some humor to it by reminding me not all mother-in-laws are as awesome as his mom is to me. i got a good laugh out of him trying his hardest to cheer me up, and i know that if i had pounced on him freaking out, it wouldn't have ended with a good laugh. he would have been so overwhelmed by it, that i would have gotten a hug and a "well, don't worry, i atleast love you." and that would have been the end of my pity-party. this is something that will have to be a continuous work in progress for me.
ReplyDeleteBecky, that's an awesome story. Thanks for sharing is just shows how guys can disengage when it comes to drama. I'm glad you guys were able to talk about the little things that upset you.
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