Day 30:

Notice Today:
Are you and your husband stuck in a rut in some areas of your married life?

Nurture Today:
What is one thing you could do to get unstuck? What can you do this week to add something new to your relationship?

Day 29:

Notice Today:
What does your husband like to do for fun? What makes him laugh?

Nurture Today:
Encourage your husband to do something that makes him laugh. Pull up a funny video on the computer and leave it open for him (try comedian Tim Hawkins or ventriloquist Mark Thompson for starters).

Day 28:

Notice Today:
What are some interests your husband enjoys that you do not? What are interests you both have in common?

Nurture Today:
Plan a fun activity together from the list above. Cut him slack to do his thing once in a while, and you call a girlfriend to have coffee this month.

Day 27:

Notice Today:
What kinds of things does your husband like to do on a date?

Nurture Today:
Pick one of the ideas in this chapter and invite your husband out for a fun and memorable date night. Put it on the calendar today.

Day 26:

Notice Today:
Are you and your husband in an easy or challenging part of the marriage journey?

Nurture Today:
What special memories have you had with your husband over the last few years? Make a "remember when" list and share it with him over dinner tonight (or later this week if tonight doesn't work).

Day 25:

Notice Today:
Are you spiritually intimidating to your husband? does he ever think he's not measuring up spiritually by the way you act or say things?

Nurture Today:
Pray daily for your husband. If he is a christian, allow him to be the spiritual leader of the home.

Day 24:

Notice Today:
Hoe does your husband respond to a drama queen (whether it's you or someone else)? Does he try to escape or disengage, or does he really enjoy the dialogue?

Nurture Today:
The next time you're tempted to be overly dramatic, Hear the conversation from your husband's perspective. Try your best to convey the facts without extreme emotions that will most likely wear him out.

Day 23:

Notice Today:
When you are unhappy, How does that affect your husband?

Nurture Today:
The next time your husband does something that irritates you, make it one of the things on your list of faults to overlook.

Day 22:

Notice Today:
How did you and your husband meet? Do you still want to win his heart over like you did then? Take out your wedding album and relive a few moments with your husband.

Nurture Today:
Ask your husband what he likes you to wear to bed. Maybe you have a "polar bear club" shirt that needs to be retired too.

Day 21:

Notice Today:

What type of looks does your husband like (clothes, makeup, hair)? What are his favorite outfits on you?

Nurture Today:
On your next date, wear something you now your husband really likes. Plan your outfit with only him in mind.

Attraction:

Day 20:
  
Notice Today:
If your husband introduced you to an acquaintance, would he  be proud of the way you look?

Nurture Today:

Write down your next small step to improve your eating habits, along with the date(s) you will do it.

Write down your next small step to improve your exercise habits, along with the date(s) you will do it.

Hey Ladies,
This is the end of Eros. I know I'm a little late but how is everyone doing? How are things going with you and your hubby? Have you seen changes? How have your feelings changed about your husband?

Day 19:

Notice Today:
Describe how you physically touched each other when you were dating.

Nurture Today:

Tell your husband about this chapter and kiss for five to thirty seconds each day for the rest of this month. If your husband isn't used to this snuggle power, he won't know what's come over you. But he probably will like it.

Day 18:

Notice Today:
do you think your husband wants to express his love in the bedroom? have you encouraged him to take that opportunity Lately?

Nurture Today:
Make a conscious effort to silence the critics in your mind that say your body isn't beautiful. View sex this week as an expression of love, not as a beauty pageant or the topic of Cosmopolitan article.

Day 17:

Notice Today:
Do you acknoledge and recongnize the sexual pressures oand temptations your husband faces, or do you discount them?

Nurture Today:
What is one thing you can do to be more sensually alluring to your husvand when you next make love? Look at the tactics used by the adulterous woman from Proverbs 7 for ideas.

Day 16:

Notice Today:

How are you and your husband doing in the areas of having fun, building sexual tension, and attraction to others?

Nurture Today:

Have fun flirting with your husband today. Hide love notes throughout the house. Text him about how you want his body.

Day 15:

Notice Today;
ARe you comfortable talking about pornagraphy with  your husband? Do you think it is a concern in your marriage?

Nurture Today:
If porn is a concern, make a commitment together to work through the above steps outlined by Dr. Penner. Show your husband this week that you want to turn on the heat at home.

Day 14

Notice Today:
Ha your husband hinted lately that he wants to have sex? How did you respond? Do you think your husband geels free to initiate lovemaking or does he "know better"/


Nurture Today;
The next time you're not in the mood to have , remember this chapter. Make the decision to invest in your marriage sexually, and let your feelings follow your actions.

Notice Today:
Do you agree with the penners that "nothing turns on a man like a turned-on woman"?

Nurture Today:
What's something concrete you can do this week to get more turned on sexually? reading a book aloud with your husband? Kegel exercises? Taking the pressure off mentally?

Day 12:

Notice Today:
Go back to the night before your wedding day. How did you dream about making love to your husband? Think about how you felt about him and how you desired his touch.

Nurture Today:
Now is the time to make that dream come true again. Plan a romantic evening with your spouse. When you make love, remember in your mind how lucky you felt on your wedding day.

Hey Ladies
So we are finished up with Respect and finishing Eros.

• What are everyone's thoughts and feelings about how this last section went?
• Is anyone noticing differences in their relationships?
• Thought, questions, comments

Day 10

Notice Today:
How often do you argue with your husband?
Seldom
Weekly
Sometimes
Daily/or almost daily
What are most of your disagreements with your husband about?

Nurture Today:
The next time your experience conflict with your husband, go quiet. Not "Ice Princess" quiet but "I want to try to understand you"quiet. Treat your husband with respect and value his opinion the same way you want your opinion valued.

Day 9:

Notice Today:
Write something you really appreciate about your husband. It could be something about his character or something he has done for you lately, like put gas in the car or fix a computer problem.


Nurture Today:
Tell him out loud or in a note what you wrote above. Be sure to be very specific about what he did and how it made your proud of him.

Day 8:

Notice Today: 

What's a difference between you and your husband that drives you nuts? What difference do you think drives him nuts?

Nurture Today:

Thinking of your husband's difference, write down how that difference may add depth and strength to your marriage. For instance, my husband being a free spirit has led us to opportunities that I would have never tried were it up to me. 

Day Seven:

Notice Today:
Make a list of five things you find attractive about your Big Hunk:

Nurture Today:
Have you spoken poorly about your husband to your family or friends? Listen tothe way you talk about your husband in the next week. Choose your words wisely and repent when you don't.

Day 6;

Notice Today:

Do you treat your husband as the leader in your home? If not, what is preventing you? IF yes, what is your motivation for letting him lead?

Nurture Today:

The next time your husband suggests something you disagree with, bite your tongue and go with the flow. As long as it's morally acceptable, you can show some flexibility.

Ending Domestic Tranquillity heading into Respect!!

How did everyone's first week go? How is everyone feeling? Any particular thoughts anyone would like to share?

Day 5


Notice:
If your husband is having a rough time at work consider how discouraged he must feel on some days. Take a moment to put yourself in his shoes.


Nurture:
Make your man feel like a man again by.....pursuing him sexually this week, cooking his favorite meal, going to a sports game, or giving him a massage.

Day 4

Notice Today:
What money personality do you think your husband is? What are you?
Saver
Spender
Risk taker
Security Seeker
Flyer ( not too concerned about money, flying by the seat of their pants financially)

Nurture Today:
Recognize your husband's money personality as valid, and then schedule a money talk. Discuss what you can both do better to work as a team financially instead of working against each other. Decide together on one specific step to implement this month to get financially stronger.

Day 3

Notice Today:
When you and your husband were dating, how often would you meet throughout the week? How did you flex and adjust your schedules to see each other?

Nurture Today:
Schedule to meet each other at an odd time. Have lunch or breakfast out together. Take a late-night walk. Do something out of the ordinary together.

Day 2:

Notice Today: 
What are three things your husband does well as a father?

Nurture Today:
Allow your husband to parent the kids using his unique style. Don't try to make him into a clone of you. Tell him today-or write a note-expressing your appreciation. If you have belittled him as a father in the past, apologize and tell him you're going to trust him more in the future.

Day 1: 

Notice Today:
Imagine the challenges your husband faces at work this week. Any deadlines coming up or strained relationships with coworkers? Is he unemployed, underemployed or over-employed right now> Howe would you rate his stress level?

Nurture Today:
When your husband walks in the door today, greet him with a warm smile, a hug, and a kiss that lasts at least five seconds. Straighten up the house a few minutes before his arrival.